POEMS FOR THE LOSS OF A FATHER
When Through One Man
A Little More Love
A Little More Light And
Truth Comes Into
Then That Man’s Life
Has Had Meaning
Fr. Alfred Delp, SJ
‘A Grandfather is someone
with silver in his hair
and gold in his heart’
‘Any man can be a father but it
takes a special person to be a Dad’
My Father Through The Years
When I was 4 years old – ‘My Daddy can do anything’
When I was 5 years old – ‘My Daddy knows a whole lot’
When I was 6 years old – ‘My Dad is smarter than your Dad’
When I was 8 years old – ‘My Dad doesn’t know exactly everything’
When I was 10 years old – ‘In the olden days when my Dad grew up, things were so different’
When I was 12 years old – ‘Oh well, naturally Dad doesn’t know anything about that, he is too old to remember
When I was 14 years old – ‘Don’t pay any attention to my Dad, he is so old fashioned’
When I was 21 years old – ‘Him? He’s hopelessly out of date!’
When I was 25 years old – ‘Dad knows about it but then he should, he’s been around so long.’
When I was 30 years old – ‘Maybe we should ask Dad what he thinks, after all, he’s had alot of experience’
When I was 35 years old – ‘I’m not doing a single thing until I talk to Dad!’
When I was 40 years old – ‘I wonder how Dad would’ve handled it, he was so wise’
When I was 50 years old – ‘I’d give anything if Dad were here now so I could talk this over with him. Too bad I didn’t appreciate how smart he was. I could’ve learned alot from him.’
Author – Ann Landers
When I was young I used to love
to sit upon your knee.
I’d gaze into your loving eyes
as your arms enfolded me.
Your gentle kiss would stir
the golden tendrils of my hair,
as whispered sentiments of love
we quietly would share.
We’d read a book together,
the same time after time.
I knew all of the words by heart,
you didn’t seem to mind.
When darkness fell you tucked me in
and gently kissed my cheek.
You’d wish upon a shooting star
the Lord my soul to keep.
The years have passed so quickly,
death parted you from me.
I hope you know how much it meant
when I sat upon your knee.
Gazing to the heavens,
as I quietly reminisce,
I’d give a million of those stars
to feel your gentle kiss.
I’d give all my tomorrows
to hear you read to me,
and remember those quiet moments
when I sat upon your knee.
Copyright – Louisas Lodge
Until We Meet Again
We think about you always,
we talk about you still,
you have never been forgotten, Dad
and you never will.
We hold you close within our hearts,
and there you will remain,
To walk and guide us through our lives
until we meet again.
Memories of The Heart
Feel no guilt in laughter,
He knows how much you care.
Feel no sorrow in a smile
That he’s not here to share.
You cannot grieve forever,
He would not want you to.
He’d hope that you would carry on
The way you always do.
So talk about the good times
And the ways you showed you cared.
The days you spent together,
All the happiness you shared.
Let the memories surround you,
A word someone may say
Will suddenly recapture
A time, an hour, a day.
That brings him back as clearly
As though he were still here,
And fills you with the feelings
That he is always near.
For if you keep those memories
You will never be apart
And he will live forever
Locked safe within your heart
What Makes A Dad?
God took the strength of a mountain,
The majesty of a tree,
The warmth of a summer sun,
The calm of a quiet sea,
The generous soul of nature,
The comforting arm of night,
The wisdom of the ages,
The power of the eagle’s flight,
The joy of a morning in spring,
The faith of a mustard seed,
The patience of eternity,
The depth of a family need,
Then God combined these qualities,
When there was nothing more to add,
He knew His masterpiece was complete,
And so, He called it … ‘DAD!’
We do not need a special day to bring you to our minds.
The days we do not think of you are very hard to find.
Each morning when we awake we know that you are gone.
And no one knows the heartache as we try to carry on.
Our hearts still ache with sadness and secret tears still flow.
What it meant to lose you no one will ever know.
Our thoughts are always with you, your place no one can fill.
In life we loved you dearly; in death we love you still.
There will always to be a heartache, and often a silent tear.
But always a precious memory of the days when you were here.
If tears would make a staircase, and heartaches make a lane,
We’d walk the path to heaven and bring you home again.
We hold you close within our hearts; and there you will remain,
To walk with us throughout our lives until we meet again.
Our family chain is broken now, and nothing seems the same,
But as God calls us one by one, the chain will link again.
We Only Wanted You
They say memories are golden
well maybe that is true.
We never wanted memories,
We only wanted you.
A million times we needed you,
a million times we’ve cried.
If love alone could have saved you
you never would have died.
In life we loved you dearly,
In death we love you still.
In our hearts you hold a place
no one can ever fill.
If tears could build a stairway
and heartache make a lane,
We’d walk the path to heaven
to bring you back again.
Our family chain is broken,
and nothing seems the same.
But as God calls us one by one,
the chain will link again.
God Saw You Getting Tired
God saw you getting tired and a cure was not to be
So he put his arms around you and whispered “Come With Me.”
With tearful eyes we watched you, slowly fade away,
Although we loved you dearly, we would not make you stay.
A golden heart stopped beating, hard working hands at rest.
God broke our hearts to prove to us,
He only takes the best.
Come With Me
The Lord saw you getting tired
And a cure was not to be,
So He put his arms aroud you
And whispered “Come with me.”
With tearful eyes we watched you suffer
And saw you fade away.
Although we loved you dearly,
We could not make you stay.
A golden heart stopped beating,
Your beautiful smile at rest.
God broke our hearts to prove
He always takes the best.
It’s lonesome here without you,
We miss you so each day.
Our lives just aren’t the same
Ever since you went away.
When days are sad and lonely
And everything goes wrong,
We hear you gently whisper,
“Cheer up and carry on.”
Each time we see your picture,
You seem to smile and say,
“Don’t cry, I’m in God’s keeping,
We’ll meet again someday.”
Memories of Dad
I will take this special moment
To turn my thoughts to Dad
Thank him for the home he gave
For all the things we had.
We think about the fleeting years
Too quickly, gone for good
It seems like only yesterday
I’d go back if I could.
A time when Dad was always there,
No matter what the weather.
Always strong when things went wrong
He held our lives together.
He strived so hard from day to day
And never once complained.
With steady hands, he worked so hard
And kept the family name.
He taught us that hard work pays off,
You reap just what you sow.
He said that if you tend your crops,
Your field will overflow.
My life has been bountiful
He taught me how to give
In his firm and steadfast way
He taught me how to live.
Dad dwells among the angels now
He left us much too soon
He glides across a golden field
Above the harvest moon.
I see him in the summer rain,
He rides upon the wind
And when my path is beaten down
He picks me up again.
God Took Him To His Loving Home
God saw him getting tired, a cure was not to be.
He wrapped him in his loving arms and whispered ‘Come with me.’
He suffered much in silence, his spirit did not bend.
He faced his pain with courage, until the very end.
He tried so hard to stay with us but his fight was not in vain,
God took him to His loving home and freed him from the pain.
He is Gone
You can shed tears that he is gone,
Or you can smile because he lived,
You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back,
Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left.
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him
Or you can be full of the love that you shared,
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember him and only that he is gone
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on,
You can cry and close your mind be empty and turn your back,
Or you can do what he would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.
Our Dear Dad
Although we are apart now
You’re always in our hearts,
In every single thing we do,
You play the biggest part.
When we have to make decisions
And we don’t know what to do,
Our thoughts, we find
Will go right back to you.
We think of how you’d handle it
And try to work it out,
It’s at times like this we’ll really miss
Having you about.
Not only for this reason
When things are going bad,
There’s a million different reasons
Why we’ll miss you Dad.
Today I left my loved ones and as I go I pray,
Lord don’t let them grieve too much, because I’ve died today.
Let there be no wailing echoing the halls,
the same halls that held laughter and answers to my calls.
I pray they all take comfort accepting the true way,
and listen when I tell them these three things today.
Love will be forever, a promise that will last.
So love me more than ever now my time with you has passed.
And last of all remember the glowing love to be,
when our eyes meet once again, for all eternity.
I’ll Fly Away
Has it been that long
Since I sat upon your knee?
You sang to me so sweetly.
I hugged you happily.
Your voice was so strong,
As you spoke to me that day.
You talked about Heaven.
You said, ‘Soon, I’ll fly away.’
I never really understood
Just what you tried to say.
I only knew I loved you.
I didn’t want you to go away.
‘Daddy loves you, honey’
Was the last thing you said to me.
At once I understood those words
And wondered why I didn’t see.
On the morning, when his life was done,
My Daddy flew away,
But I know his love will stay with me,
Forever and a day.
Your Love Brought Me Through
When life was closing in on me,
My world had fallen down;
You always kept me going,
When you would come around.
You pieced me back together,
You made me laugh and smile;
Then when my steps would falter,
You led me that extra mile.
You gave to me a shoulder,
For me to cry upon;
You listened when I had to talk,
When I went on and on.
You never tried to judge me,
Or tear my life apart;
You kept my feet on solid ground,
You listened with your heart.
You told me I could be someone,
You made me feel I could;
Do anything, go anywhere,
If only I just would.
Your love is unconditional,
So I give love back to you;
You are the wind beneath my wings,
Your love has brought me through.
Allison Chambers Coxsey
The Gift of You
Thank you for the gift of you!
You gave us hope by just being you.
After all the hurting and healing is through
We’ll treasure most of all the gift of you!
A Grandfather Like You
Throughout the years you’ve always been
A wonderful man to me
When I was small you took the time to
Bounce me on your knee
As I grew older, you were there
I only had to call
I knew that I could count on you
You’d never let me fall
So many hard times in my life
You’ve helped to get me through
I’m so glad God gave me
A Grandfather as special as you.
‘Your love will light our way,
Your memory will be with us forever’
When I Lost You
I wish I could see you one more time
come walking through the door
But I know that is impossible
I will hear your voice no more.
I know you can feel my tears
and you don’t want me to cry
Yet my heart is broken
because I can’t understand
why someone so precious had to die.
I pray that God will give me strength
and somehow get me through
As I struggle with this heartache
that came when I lost you.
A Fallen Limb
A limb has fallen from the family tree
I hear a voice that whispers, ‘Grieve not for me’
Remember the best times, the laughter, the songs
The good I lived while I was strong
Continue my heritage, I’m counting on you
Keep on smiling, the sun will shine through.
My mind is at ease, my soul is at rest
Remembering all…how I was truly blessed
Continue traditions, no matter how small
Go on with your lives, don’t stare at the wall
I miss you all dearly so keep up your chin
Until that fine day we’re together again.